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Monday, November 28, 2011

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Howdy and welcome to spiltmilk ranch, well it’s the season to be jolly with all the mistletoe and holly.  I know some don’t feel like joining the fun.  Somewhere out there, there is someone who for them the season is pure hell. Mistletoe and holly are both poisonous and can make you or your pet very sick same for poinsettia. But there are other things that can and will make the season a bad time for some people.  Here are some tips from the Mayo Clinic to help you make it thru the holidays.

Stress, depression and the holidays: Tips for coping
Stress and depression can ruin your holidays and hurt your health. Being realistic, planning ahead and seeking support can help ward off stress and depression.
The holiday season often brings unwelcome guests — stress and depression. And it's no wonder. The holidays present a dizzying array of demands — parties, shopping, baking, cleaning and entertaining, to name just a few.
But with some practical tips, you can minimize the stress that accompanies the holidays. You may even end up enjoying the holidays more than you thought you would.
Tips to prevent holiday stress and depression
When stress is at its peak, it's hard to stop and regroup. Try to prevent stress and depression in the first place, especially if the holidays have taken an emotional toll on you in the past.
1.     Acknowledge your feelings. If someone close to you has recently died or you can't be with loved ones, realize that it's normal to feel sadness and grief. It's OK to take time to cry or express your feelings. You can't force yourself to be happy just because it's the holiday season.
2.     Reach out. If you feel lonely or isolated, seek out community, religious or other social events. They can offer support and companionship. Volunteering your time to help others also is a good way to lift your spirits and broaden your friendships.
3.     Be realistic. The holidays don't have to be perfect or just like last year. As families change and grow, traditions and rituals often change as well. Choose a few to hold on to, and be open to creating new ones. For example, if your adult children can't come to your house, find new ways to celebrate together, such as sharing pictures, emails or videos.
4.     Set aside differences. Try to accept family members and friends as they are, even if they don't live up to all of your expectations. Set aside grievances until a more appropriate time for discussion. And be understanding if others get upset or distressed when something goes awry. Chances are they're feeling the effects of holiday stress and depression, too.
5.     Stick to a budget. Before you go gift and food shopping, decide how much money you can afford to spend. Then stick to your budget. Don't try to buy happiness with an avalanche of gifts. Try these alternatives: Donate to a charity in someone's name, give homemade gifts or start a family gift exchange.
6.     Plan ahead. Set aside specific days for shopping, baking, visiting friends and other activities. Plan your menus and then make your shopping list. That'll help prevent last-minute scrambling to buy forgotten ingredients. And make sure to line up help for party prep and cleanup.
7.     Learn to say no. Saying yes when you should say no can leave you feeling resentful and overwhelmed. Friends and colleagues will understand if you can't participate in every project or activity. If it's not possible to say no when your boss asks you to work overtime, try to remove something else from your agenda to make up for the lost time.
8.     Don't abandon healthy habits. Don't let the holidays become a free-for-all. Overindulgence only adds to your stress and guilt. Have a healthy snack before holiday parties so that you don't go overboard on sweets, cheese or drinks. Continue to get plenty of sleep and physical activity.
9.     Take a breather. Make some time for yourself. Spending just 15 minutes alone, without distractions, may refresh you enough to handle everything you need to do. Take a walk at night and stargaze. Listen to soothing music. Find something that reduces stress by clearing your mind, slowing your breathing and restoring inner calm.
10.  Seek professional help if you need it. Despite your best efforts, you may find yourself feeling persistently sad or anxious, plagued by physical complaints, unable to sleep, irritable and hopeless, and unable to face routine chores. If these feelings last for a while, talk to your doctor or a mental health professional.

Take control of the holidays

Don't let the holidays become something you dread. Instead, take steps to prevent the stress and depression that can descend during the holidays. Learn to recognize your holiday triggers, such as financial pressures or personal demands, so you can combat them before they lead to a meltdown. With a little planning and some positive thinking, you can find peace and joy during the holidays.

If you know someone who is having a hard time with the holidays, be a good friend and find a way to help them. It will make your holidays better. Now there is just twenty six day left till it is all over, you can do it.

I heard from Mouse and he is down there at the South Pole playing hockey with Rudolf and the penguins.  He said Rudolf said they would not let him play reindeer games. 

I told him he had better get to moving them back to the North Pole or he would have to deal with nick and the sheriff, if you know what I mean.
One last thing, you know I have this Christmas story book that is a fun read and great fun to read at a Christmas party.  It all so makes a great pre Christmas present to open before Christmas. You can find a copy here by clicking on the cover of Andre the squirrel and the Christmas Gift. or here at Amazon
Thank you for coming by and may god bless your holidays


Jessica M said...

It's so important to remember that the holidays aren't a "peice of pie" for everyone. There's many that are struggling on a daily basis, the holidays becoming quite a dark time, a trial...This post is a good reminder...great tips too. May we all have compassion and empathy to those around us who might be struggling with depression during this time, and the rest of the year too..being a beam of light in their darkness.

Alpana Jaiswal said...

I agree with whatever Jessica has to always come up with the right things to say...God bless you...Roy

Debbie said...

Thanks for the reminder that not everyone is enjoying the holiday season. I remember my father always trying to make it a joyful, happy time when I was a child.

Later when I was older I found out that he actually disliked Christmas, because that was around the same time his mother had passed away (when he was 7).

It's sad to think about how young some are when the holiday season and the joys it brings can be ruined for many. It happens more often then we may know.

Portia said...

Great article! really we sghould keep these things in mind while celebrating.

sulekkha said...

An eye opener, great post which helps us better understand the way why certain people behave during the holidays. For some they bring back sad memories.Thanks for sharing.

Anonymous said...

So true... one should keep things in perspective and the holiday spirit...
Breathe throughout he holidays is what i always say.

JANU said...

Well said, great tips too. Shopping is really stressful even after planning.

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